I dont like his job because he has accepted gifts from other women and is a server at an asian restaurant. Betrayal is such a painful and difficult experience that extends far beyond the physical act. she strips and is not afraid to pleasure any man married or not in any way. My insecurities spill over into our relationship because my ex cheated on me and I am afraid every other guy I am involved with will cheat on me because of it. As in any couple weve had our problems. How to test a relationship, to see if its healthy and strong. Im very sorry you went through that on your honeymoon. he diens pass incidents like when coming home at or a day later back in the day hasnt done that for about 12 years. Warm wishes to you as you recover from the loss of trust that you once had. Instead, either ask them to come to you or pay for a cab. 3 months after my son was born i caught my husband in the shower watching porn which is not allowed under my roof and he agreed at the time but now hes constantly lying to me and feels like he is always going behind my back and when i see him in his work place it looks like he stares and flirts with everyone. Get a New job or hobby and he will see you are not thinking about him. Last 2 weeks again, i saw a picture on his whattsaap, when i asked him, he said it was his late sisters daughter, when i made my investigation, i discovered it was another lie from my cheating husband. So, be real. Also - wrapping legs around leg of chair is a sign of restraint, of holding back, and not being honest. Its a fascinating look into a marriage and the mind of a cheating man! Believe in you. and when i bring it up with him, he just says he was kidding, and that he would never cheat on me. The open and honest communication you and your husband are having now is awesome. It helps to know other women are going through the same thing. And second I wanted to hurt him and if it means going through his wife, then YES. My husband has fooled, hurt and betrayed me for so many years, I think I rather be in a relationship with a woman before another man. No family time only myself and the kids, HELP ME!! Well to speed things along in my story, he eventually asked if we could get back together and I said no I was still to hurt over him leaving me. Btw. I would like to know if he is cheating of not? I hope that helps. I guess when he stops providing Ill probably lose interest in staying with him. Hi Mspinkstuff, I feel the same with you. Science has proven that genetic diversity is healthier within biological populations. I have chewed my nails to bits over this issue, because I havent the tiniest clue how to approach this situation. Sounds to me like you DO have proof and you are in denial. 3. Then for 2011 i thought this would be the year life would turn around for us.. Little did i know he would pull another trick and ask my neice to do dirty things with him.. I find peace in her response to him when he emailed her and she replied that she thought he couldnt have friends that were girls. He would say nothing happened your stupid dont think that. To learn more from Gary Neuman, readhis bookThe Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. They shared lovely emails and text messages which my husband always deleted. Emptying almost all of it within 10 days time. Met woman on craigslist for sexting and video sex. Your subconscious is picking up on hints and signs that youre not consciously aware of and that is a far better predictor of his lying and cheating than my advice will ever be. Act like you are worth more than how he treats you. I have a very strong feeling my husband is talking to someone(a woman engineer he works closely with?) I could tell coz he has been so cheeky of late and attention you can tell its now divided. Trust your gut instincts, even though the answer might be painful. I prayed that God would reveal it to me so plainly that I couldnt ignore or feel crazy. wouldnt deny it wouldnt admit it. We have a child together and I done know what to do. You will also want to consider that opening a relationship with another man out of hurt or frustration will cause further damage to your relationship and make you look bad in the end regardless of what he has done. I think I am well justified to consider very seriously that I was probably cheated on, and yes, I dont have any hard evidence to confirm it, but the probability is very strong considering the nature of his behaviour even to this day, when anything around the subject comes up. 7 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Stopped Calling and Texting, Is Your Husband Using Facebook to Cheat on You? He did not answer his phone, so I called her phone and asked where he was. the fact that he lied about it? Pointed his finger at me while angrily telling me he was tired of this stuff! and Im done!. Hi Allison- I was so sad to read your message. etc. Protecting the affair partner. His job is one where he doesnt have to check in with anyone really, but he spends all his time away from home. Leaning away from you is a sign of a cheating, lying husband because we lean away from things we want to avoid. Each time I have been met with angry words and even flying fist. Plus my husband told me that he was going to go get gas before he comes home from work the other day, and my husband hasnt used his car since then. WOW its like the devil destroy marriages including mine of 28yrs . I saw that he had an account to a hookup site this site is JUST for casual sex no other purpose. She also said they met up at a parking lot where a lot of people go to hang out and drink after work at around 2 or 3 am when they get off work. Nothing happened but still, I count that as cheating. No he has a secret password for his phone. Thank you for sharing your experience with cheating in marriage. You are worth it!! I was supposed to see it before it was mailed by the staff. He tried to blame me , that I wasnt loving enough, wasnt complimentary enough . The guys are playing poker more frequently and I have learned recently that it is not always just guys that play there is the wife of one of the guys and on e of her friends. You deserve to be loved and respected and raise your children in a healthy environment. The problem is that hes bored. Even now after three months he says he is physically not attracted to her anymore. I decided to do my own thing as far as dating. I first saw him 20 plus years, never spoken to each other. When we first started off. And this second girl, by their chat I would say they consider each other as a friends. I understand your pain and where I dont have any answers for you, I do have my own story. And, yes, I have no doubt that that time was a scary, perhaps even depressing time for him, but he had every control over every decision he made, his decision to text her while in bed with me, his decision to run to her rescue the moment she said so, the decision to leave family functions to meet with her on weekends at the office etc etc etc Nothing about his actions indicated that he was concerned about how I may feel, that in all that time, I was not important at all, to the point that he would tell me that if I felt the way I did, then I must leave. When I asked about the women he was searching for on Facebook, he said they are possibly a threat. Thank you for being here! Im in counseling, and hes quit drinking. Then after that his not interested in trying again. She trusted her gut her intuition and she was right. I think until now he is up into simething. As much as we woukd like to give back what we got, some of us just cant . She was fully clothed, just a selfie of herself. Now I find out that the one he met while he was in Italy is not a lesbian like they both said, in fact she gets into detail about being with other guys and how it was with him. If you had to give one up completely and forever, which would it be? Thank you in advance for any advice you can give. He had the ring on the finger, true, but you have no morales if you cheat with him. He is very handsome, and I always tell him how attractive he is. I went through his phone bill and found 2 numbers that he texted so often it was not funny. That leads to the day he accidentally autosaved a picture she sent him and I found it. But I never felt that I was being cheated until 4 months ago. I confront him, he gets angry, gets the kids involved, they get upset, and he accuses me of ruining our family. I still do not know to this day what was worse founding out about him having an affair or what went on after he was found out. My boyfriend lied to me. The first step is finding trust in yourself. It is so important. I love him with all of my heart and I know he loves me and we have such an amazing family. It sounds like your father is an abusive man in a stressful situation, which is making him behave even worse than normal. At this point my Husband did not mind. He tells me that its not professional and theres other ways. In your case, thats not what I got from what you described. She paused and gave him the phone and he was laughing talkin about he was just playing with me. In a survey of 1,535 adults, a full 91 percent considered infidelity to be morally. A few months went by and surprisingly we ran into each other during a church event I had to go too for work, then again the next weekend and we talked again I asked him if that was his friend behind him and he said no *looked down* my fiance.. i said oh.. and I walked away.. please give me some advice. Instead, it might go something like this: you always disappear on our weekends off, you get too chummy and personal with the girls and women at work, you always talk about porn and strip clubs, you say you are the only decent man out there because every other man goes to strip clubs (talk about projection), you oversexualize every woman instead of them just being flakes or incompetent, these other women in your life must be damaged because they have been molested, you talk about your ex-girlfriends, ex-wives or female coworkers all the time, she found naked pictures of women on your phone or computer and you said they were sent by some unwanted entity resulting from an underwear search, you hid something relating to sex from her before you were married and now she cant completely trust you, and the list goes on. My husband knows this girl have feeling for him since I was pregnant because this girl decided to tell him she has feeling even tho she knew he has pregnant girlfriend.but I know he is not serious about her too.its just annoying because he say I have boyfriend witch I dont. And when i was talking to him today he told me that she was talking on the phone with her boyfriend and the she started talking about she was horny in front of my husband. My doctor and a psychologist has told me to divorce and move on that I will never let it go. (he knew how they hated me so used them as an escape). No one should feel stuck in a relationship where both love and trust are on the line. Me and my fianc have been together for 2 and half years, if you dont count the three months we was split up. Anyway, read the article I wrote for you. My story is a little different. You can read more about me. Please help me. Well being pissed i took those pictures printed out , mailed to her husband, her neighbors all on fire department who helped lie for him. So, although my husband has extra work, he does have extra help. I pray you find healing for the hurts that have been done to you, and I pray you find wisdom to leave people who dont treat you with love and respect. And it hurts to be slapped in the face with this realism. Personally , I think my husband cant and should not be married . They dont make good fathers either. Thank you for being here it took alot of courage to open up and share the way you did. They don't want to hurt them anymore than they already have. We where together for about 2 months when I was snooping on his facebook page cause I noticed he had been messaging the same girl from our church again reading through their messages all the way back to when we was first together I saw that he had indeed cheated on my with her before we had broke up. We are married for 4 years, but we are together for 7 years. . Why not leave me and go be single and have all these women he can have. I found all kinda of correspondence between them. Bluffing can be effective when trying to get your partner to admit they are cheating, but if they don't buy your bluff, they won't admit what's really going on. I the one that I always read about and said how could a woman be so stupid. Well youve just met stupid! I prayed with someone else ( where two or more are together Jesus is in the midst). I also later learned she was his ex, and he had at one point during when they were dating wanted to marry her. i dont know how to handle this anymore im broken. i told him its over the same time the other lady react and tells him you did not tell me you got girlfriend then he said now you know as from today you should know you are 2. I feel for your heart but Im guessing that at times.. its consuming you. Im such a bright educated woman yet Im so alone. They just dont know what a fraud he is. The first two weeks I moved, things were normal. He said when he woke up he asked her and she said they did but didnt believe. Stated he couldnt stop. Should I keep trying to save this relationship or just cut my loses. I waited 30 years,same stuff,now go running. I hope what you said to her made an impact! He said okay, it was just a picture because she wanted to show him her new hair style, whatever! I finally had enough after he got her to call my father in law to basically say I was crazy and they werent doing anything. http://www.marketwatch.com/story/5-apps-for-spying-on-your-spouse-2014-03-10. https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/steps-when-confused-about-relationship/. I genuinely believe he feels this way most of the time. But he has done some really bad things too. Im not married but I have a baby with my live in partner. He has just destroyed himself in so many ways. But she lived far away and I just did not allow it to consume my thoughts. Anyhow, any man that cheats while his partner is pregnant simply cannot be called a man. The fact is that hes given up on trying to make things work. I hurt and want to get away from him. I was done with the Internet and he went on his PC and I guess he saw them pictures to and before he deleted them he made sure I could not see. I didnt see the big deal. Love yourself, dont cheat with guys who are already involved with other women. I was devastated. He has said he is not sexually satisfied. He said it was more frequent in the beginning then got less frequent as the weeks went on. She wants to trust you, but your behavior is causing pain. Kindly advice. .remind her that she is always worth the effort and the romance for a month and I bet your whole relationship will change for the better! She told me somethings my husband had promised her about our business, and became upset when I denounced that with the implication that with 15 years vested in the business everything she saw was what we not he had. May you not fall prey to manipulation or emotional control. Hes been aquising me of things and sneaking around. Honestly, it does not feel natural. Right? Ive gone through fertility treatments and that is how Ive been able to get pregnant. But I am also terrified of investing more time and energy into someone who has let me down this early on in our relationship and risking getting hurt even more later. How cruel I thought! Over time, it will help you work through your feelings and help you decide what your next steps should be. hi, This is rani my issue is that my husband seems like cheating me due to various reason.because i found some changes in him like coming late to home, avoiding me coming to his office , deleting his phone history but after asking abt tat he was managing to keep few entries .showing difference in bed,bluffing , and suddenly showing huge affection towards me somtimes mentioning three instead of two. Hi. A day came when I was going through his messages with the womani saw where she asked him why did you sleep with me if you dont love me. I waiting and waiting until Feb 21, I told his wife. Why would he need a picture of this girl, if the already has million pictures of herlself everybody to see? He even went as far as to tell me that he wants a DNA test to make sure that the baby is his. I wrote this to answer your question and another girl had the same question, so I answered her here, too: What Should I Do When I Suspect He is Cheating on Me? He became extremely aggressive and angry with me when I started accusing him of being way too involved with her. Your spouse has taken a hard look at you and the other person and said, F you to your face. Its pathetic and sad. My husband continued to make contact with her. He reacted instantly saying hed forgotten and reached up to the closet, and produced these beautiful, sexy clothes hed bought me, and a bottle of my new favorite perfume. Im glad it helped you, and hope it helps others who might be in the same situation. Because I trusted him. When we arrived over there she was not there and her boyfriend looked very angry at us. I just felt he was depressed. Ami, You need to walk away and let him work it out with his wife. There is no excuse for infidelity of any kind. He asked if I have seen sextape movie with Cameron Diaz, and I was like not, do you. Then you proceed to storm out and take off. In the pictures they appear in close proxity. Is there any man out there that can be single? My number one suggestion for finding out the truth is to ask him about it. I think there must be something more going on, than just your husband having a nightmare. My prayer for you is that you find the resources you need to move past your husbands past. CHEATING!!!!!! And i told him that alochol was just as much a drug as weed is and he and i do not see eye to eye on this. What do I do? According to a recent Gallup poll, having an affair is one of the most immoral things someone can possibly do. This is a painful but good talk to watch: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved. I left my husband 5 years ago because I found out he was cheating and lying, and I am so glad that part of my life is over. ON MY BIRTHDAY. I pray for wisdom, peace, hope, healing, and courage. im only 36 and i just finally came to my senses and have left the relationship it hard scary but theres relief from lies manipulation and abuse it only got progressively worse never better. after some times he started again to date with someonelse again i told him if you want to come to my flat u should make appointment, he said he can not make appointment to come to her glfriend. I have confronted him several times, showed up there once (that was a bad idea) he got so upset. His bestfriends are a group of cheater not all but most of them! Patty get your kids and get OUTTA THERE!!!! consider how many times you argue or quarrel, how close is your husband to the kids, does he support in the house though is drinking? The more testosterone a man has, the more likely he is to cheat. Garbage in, garbage out I suppose. The confusion and shock is almost overwhelming at first! I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. With this evidence to hand, youll be in a far better position to take the steps listed below. It can do two things: Make him nervous and cause him to burp the truth. Someone please give me some advice??? There is no one right piece of advice, no black and white answer that will solve your problem. In the end, Im sure it will be my fault for the trust issues. I know how it can rock your world. I then thought of it as a stupid pop up, but it was strange because those sorts of things dont pop up unless someone searches it. Are you serious!!!!! He had to fix it, so he just told her he would get a room for her. I will say a prayer for all of you.please get away from the ones you are with who are cheating on their spouses I PROMISE you there is someone out there for you who will treat you perfect! I have never seen this woman or boy before. He comes home after work majority of the time but lately he has been pulling away from me, we are not as intimate as we used to be and he seems to not be as open with me ( with his feelings and just things in general) we used to tell each other everything. Its a sickening feeling to be wondering if your own husband is involved with another woman! Once you read some of this youll have an idea of what to do. I found strange underware but we all joked it off. he also told me she did say he likes him but continues this. I hope they help, and welcome your thoughts. You should never blame yourself, though, as you both made a commitment to each other. Men do cheat. My prayer for all women who think their husbands are lying about cheating is for clarity, wisdom, and guidance. Well i confronted him with this affair after finding a msg he sent her about a romantic place and how he wishes she was with him. Hi Mr Tommy D. I am in a relationship with someone that Ive been with for almost two years now and I do think its love. but he was begging for me back the whole time telling me I was the love of his life. I feel for you so much. OMG I know how you feel my Husband is a Pastor and I snooped and found out he meets women on a dating site and one lady he even gives her money. He was being very weird about it. I went back. Since then the woman has had the baby and I dont want to take my frustrations out on the baby cause its not the babys fault. He then told me he kissed her, put his hands up her shirt, and made out with her. After being in a relationship for 3 years, in January my husband sat down and openly admitted with tears and a cross in his hand that he cheated on me with his coworker. He came out and told me he apologized said it was only one time and he felt so bad afterwards he didnt know what to do. 3 more months went by and he popped the question and of course I said yes. He says he will never do it again, that i will be his focus and that when he feels like he needs to be a full MAN again, he will focus that energy he spent on finding craigslist women, he will focus on finding things to spice up our marriage, OR plan weekend getaways. I get it. I cant tell you how you should or should not feel. And we are blessed with 22months old son. Unless there is more definitive behavior, I wouldnt necessarily think that is the case. Oh I just dont know anymore. Ive thought about confronting her, and Ive thought about hiring a private investigator What should I do? Im not attracted to her at all. We have four kids, our youngest 8months old. I dont like divorce so i like to think people can try to work through it the first and only time it happens but more than once is a slap in the face and him saying he doesnt care, which he probabley doesnt. Please i really need advice ladies. And if hurting him means going through his wife I will.and I wanted to put him and every man like him in his placeI wish you much luck with your journey. We had been dating for six months when my husband had to return home for family reasons. And i really cant get much lower. Well, just recently he decides to come up to me and say that he thinks we should have an open realationship. I discovered it because I was the one paying the cell phone bill and it had been a bit high during that time. I feel he had sex with her and didnt want me to know so he made the story up. Will this ever end? He wouldnt talk to me for 10 days. However I cannot guess what is goign through my partners head. Will Your Marriage Succeed? If he had nothing to hide, why become defensive, and protective, and secretive? He gave me her number, even though I was so angry I knew I would be able to get much information out of her if I wasnt calm and didnt play the part of being calm in this matter. 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